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Fake it
till make it, they say. I mean, what does this even mean? Yes, confidence is a
significant issue. That's something one might work on for their entire life.
It's not easy to gain and the process is rather painful. It teaches you a lot,
whilst also taking a lot from you. And I also don't think anyone can say,
‘Okay, I got this from here until the day I die’. Because there will always be
circumstances that make us feel horrible about ourselves. But that's fine, too.
All of these things are part of our lives. However, what I don't get is how you
can actually pretend to have something you don't have. This feels so
unnatural to me.
Besides,
for someone to fake something, you have to trick your brain into doing it. In
other words, your brain should be convinced of something you are
not. Maybe it's an art and you gotta learn at some point in your life. I
don't know. Although grown-up life is not as sincere as I would imagine, I
believe there is still room for reality, and I want that aspect to be as
genuine as possible. At least from my end, anyway.
So
instead of faking it till making it, I'm adopting an approach that says, ‘The
imperfection is guaranteed, you might as well do it.’ I heard this
sentence in some podcast and it stuck in my mind since. I can't emphasize
enough how accurate and honest this is. And I feel like I'm experiencing this a
lot. I'm abstaining from lots of things thinking that I won't be good enough.
And if I, by mistake, began with that thing, I'm making the experience hell for
me. That's not helpful, at all. And since I don't know how to fake it, this is
making things a bit difficult. But if one could just accept the fact that,
whatever you do in this life, it's never going to be perfect. Someone could be
better than you, but there's always someone else who's better than this person
and this goes forever. Thus, focusing on who is doing better than you is an
endless pit. And this circle also goes in the other way. Some people are making
things way worse than you are. But we don't normally like to focus on that.
We'd like to make ourselves miserable by focusing on what we can't achieve and
who is doing better than us.
In
short, rather than striving for perfection and faking it or pretending to be
someone you're not, consider focusing on the idea that if you wait too long for
everything to happen flawlessly, you might wind up waiting forever. So, you
might as well do that thing and just observe the process. It will undoubtedly
get better with practice. And better is already more than enough. Because
perfection is a myth and I really do hope someday I could embrace my perfectly
imperfect existence.
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